Porn and Sex

This is a tough subject for many people anymore, especially Christians. We can get caught up in the secular world and how it bombards us with images of women or men. Porn is more view-able now than it has ever been. Just type in certain words in a search engine and wha-laa you have explicit photo's that link to explicit websites.

This is a tough subject for me as well, because I have struggled with porn addiction in the past and have relapses now and then. It first started for me I stayed at my Grandmothers house and she has Cinemax. Cinemax features Soft core porn on Friday and Saturday nights and when I was there I would stay in the basement so I could watch it. I would watch it for the thrill of being caught.

Fast foward to 18 years old, then I was attending the University of Missouri and in a fraternity. I was in a culture that awarded promiscuity and it was celebrated when you did. It started my first semester and eventually got worse. I am glad that my parents protected us from having internet in my house, that way I couldn't waste my time on it.

I am still battling thoughts and things that cloud up my mind. It is like a snowball effect. You see an image and that can trigger a thought, then another thought and then before you know it you are trying to look at porn or at least considering it. The realization is that when you are addicted getting caught doing it won't stop you. I have been caught by my mother, sister and girlfriends in the past and that didn't stop me.

The only way to quite is to ask the Lord to help you. The Devil has a hold of you and the only way to get him off your back is to ask him to send the Holy Spirit and help you out. Our God is greater and stronger than anything. You need to understand that. I asked God for help and realized that there is nothing that I could do to stop, only with God's help was I going to come close.

Here are some tips:

1. Put blockers on your internet to keep certain material from popping up
2. Watch what kind of cites you go to - will it help lead to others that are bad?
3. When you go to work and there happens to be pictures of women, don't look at them and avoid them as much as you can.
4. Have an accountability person to help you, you need someone to give you encouragement
5. Know your business of what you are doing on the computer - get on, get off as quick as you can.

Trust me out there parents, once this stuff gets you it starts to take control of your life and take over your thoughts. I am glad that I was raised in church and have a Godly girlfriend that helps me get through my struggles.